the fear of failure

Success,

a long term feeling of accomplishment

due to one’s goals, comes with a price,

failure.

Although failure is the outcome or possible

factor of

success the thought of not fulfilling a goal is

frightening.

Failure can be a traumatizing and a frightening

experience, but once this experience is

overcome; success is a possible outcome.

Failure teaches oneself to not repeat the same

mistakes,

or it can simply open new doors to a variety of

opportunities.   

Fear of failure is a factor that plays strongly in

today’s society.

Many students share the same emotion of

failure once they go out to the real world

or simply don’t know what to expect.

Due to the fact that there may be no jobs for a

career in which you worked hard for.

The feeling of failure is

complex,

and occurs unconsciously, but there isn’t a full

explanation of where it comes from or why it

occurs.

Many psychologists have studied why these

atrocities occur, but no one has given a proper

explanation or a clear answer of why this

emotion occurs.

A possible reason may be to not disappoint

family members or friends. 

The fact that one feels the desire to satisfy

other people because one might feel like you

owe your success toward someone special.

Another factor or consequence in which this

fear may occur is having hypercritical parents

or maybe there was an experience of being

bullied which instills self doubt. Eventually

having a self doubt can lead to having the fear

of failure, but once this fear occurs oneself

starts to ask “what if” without actually

trying or taking action to see what the outcome is.

 Immigrants come to succeed, but in order for

that to happen failure needs to occur. Immigrant children

face this fear often, the fear that they are gonna fail and

disappoint their parents, the reason being

that their parents came to this country and left

everything behind such as family, friends

and a home for a better life for their kids as well as for

themselves, is a terrifying thought and feeling.

Especially

if you have to figure out how everything works by

yourself such as learning a new

language and going through an education system alone

and doing college without a parent’s guidance.

At the end of the day failure is part of life and

we have to learn from it no matter what,

failure can’t be escaped.

One never knows what the

outcome is if there is no risk toward

the specific goal.

For example artists that exist today, had a goal

of becoming a singer or actress one day they

obviously feared failing, but they used that fear

to succeed and reach their goals. This is the

ultimate goal, to conquer one’s fear and not ask

“What If”

But Rather Take Action.